You can not fill a cup that is already full. Omaticaya
REFLECTIONS (learnings and actions): This week I wanted to write to you and expand upon an idea I have talked about in the past, but gained more insights about this week. It centers around DIPs, or the lowest points of taking on new challenges, when they become stressful and 0% fun.
These moments occur, after the novelty of a new experience has worn off and you are met with the reality of actually having to do the work. Unfortunately, we often get caught up focusing on the end RESULT, thus feelings of anxiety, stress, and wanting to quit because arise. This happens as there is a gap between where we are and the result we are trying to achieve. I have learned this is a trigger for you to analyze your principles, daily decisions or actions, as what you are currently doing is not moving you to your ultimate outcome.
This week I want to go deeper and explain the clarity I have gained. When we experience our DIPs our minds are filled with thoughts about WHY we have not achieved what we set out to. For example, I have only lost 2 lbs, yet I have been dieting for TWO whole weeks. OR, I do not see any results from the program I bought after trying it a month.
Now these feelings usually appear, as you are comparing your results to the results of others. I have learned this a sure fire way of cementing yourself in your DIP. I see others and they are doing x, y, and z, but WHY can't I?
Now, what starts out as a few thoughts becomes an avalanche which overwhelms you! All of a sudden, you are inundated with anxiety, doubt, and stress.
WHY did you choose to take this on?
WHY did you invest that money?
HOW did you believe you could do this?
On, and on....
It might get to a point where the stress manifests itself in physical form, as constant tension in your shoulders, fatigue, or even illness as you are solely focusing on why things are not working.
Like I mentioned above, this is where you want to analyze your principles. But I have learned before you do this, you need to MAKE ROOM. What do I mean by this?
Well, currently you are inundated with thoughts about why things are probably not working. If that is all you are thinking about, then there is no room for anything else.
You can not learn, grow, or succeed if there is no space for it. You can not analyze and identify what can be changed in order to make progress if all you do is blame yourself or even worse others, for not making progress.
Thus, if you are in the midst of a DIP do the following to endure and move past it:
1. Be aware you are solely focused on the end result.
2. MAKE ROOM by letting go and non-comparison to the results of others.
3. Analyze your daily decisions and actions, principles. Are you even measuring your actions? Are you doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. Are you reporting on your actions to modify what you are doing to move you closer to your end result.
4. Implement. Identify your modifications and implement.
Thus, know experiencing a DIP is inevitable on the path to achieving your dreams, but focusing on the end result and comparing yourself to others is a sure fire way of giving up before you reach places you never thought possible,
What Went Well?
Clarifying. Learning more strategies to cope with DIPs.
What is something we can improve? What actions can we take next week?
BE PRESENT. BE where you are. If I am talking to someone, I want to be there, not somewhere else.
What is something to avoid next week?
Not making room for growth and learning.
PLANNING (Implementation Intention): You will follow through 2X to 3X more likely to complete your weekly task than you normally would just by filling in the following statement.
I plan to complete the weekly task [day] at [time] in [location].
A reminder you might have to use multiple Implementation Intentions in order to follow through.
EXECUTION (strategies used): From week to week, I use a combination of many strategies. There are always some which are used more than others depending on what comes up, but I wanted to offer a link to all them at once.
My advice is to identify the I CAN'T statement you tell yourself during the most. Then find a strategy below the statement which resonates with you, and then start using it.
Enjoy!
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