WEEK 111: CONFIDENCE

Confidence is recognizing something is not working and having the flexibility and knowledge to make adjustments.

Tim Grover

REFLECTIONS (learnings and actions): This week I want to write to you about an integral part of achieving any goal, massive success, and your dreams.

But before I get into it I want to tell you a little story...

There was this shy boy who really liked a certain girl, but did not believe she would ever say yes to hanging out with him.

He could visualize in his mind talking to her for hours on end and all the things they would do...but his dream ended when he snapped back to reality.

"Who do I think I am, she is way out my league!"

Now the central idea portrayed above is a part of so many other stories and is exactly why most of us find it so hard to achieve our dreams. 

What is it?

Confidence.  

We all think we know what it means, but most of us really do not know. I would bet most people could not define it if you were to ask them, yet this is what you need to understand before you can achieve any goal, massive success, and your dreams.

To start, you really need to know the difference between being confident and being cocky. Knowing the difference can produce drastically different results. 

Cockiness is the inability to see something is not working and repeating the same mistake over and over. This is what Albert Einstein called insanity.

Tim Grover wrote it succinctly, 

"Confidence is recognizing something is not working and having the flexibility and knowledge to make adjustment."

This means you will need to constantly adjust and keep rolling with the punches. Additionally, you must understand things might not work at all. Especially the first time. 

I have written in the past the path to achieving your dreams will be hazy and unclear at times. This lack of clarity will cause you to feel uncomfortable feelings like doubt, anxiety, and fear. These feelings can stop you dead in your tracks as the uncertainty is too much.

This is where the definition of confidence comes into play. You might not know everything you will need to do, but you must center your thoughts around the belief you have the ability to see when something is not working. This will enable you to use your flexibility and knowledge to adjust and figure it out!
Wow....that is powerful!
You do not need to know everything...you just need to dedicate yourself daily to developing yourself and your craft. This builds up your knowledge and flexibility to be ready for any situation. 
For me, this new found definition of confidence came at the perfect time. I have three simultaneous businesses running currently. Recently, I have felt a little overwhelmed as I do not know with 100% certainty all the necessary things to move each one forward.
However I have been rejuvenated after this epiphany about confidence; identifying when something is not working, being flexible, and using my knowledge to adapt and figure it out!
This ties so many other learnings I have had lately.
Acting from a place of confidence allows me to 
1. Make a decision, and have a relentless, singular focus to make it right.
2. Act from abundium (element of abundance).
3. Understand everything is a means to an end, not an end itself. 
4. Ability to see nothing that happens in another persons mind can harm us. Nor the shifts and changes in the world around us. 
Like I said before...powerful!
Now can you build confidence by just sitting on your laurels? No, it is built from daily preparation and honing your mental and physical skills. 
That is why the LYP has been so instrumental for me. It has given me a conduit to build up my confidence through a daily commitment to personal development. 
Did this happen over night? 
No, but I can guarantee you will be able to achieve ANYTHING if you commit to your LYP, as it will arm you with the confidence to achieve your dreams!,

Top three activities that move me forward?

1. Investing time to ingest beneficial information for my growth. Traffic and Funnels and the book Relentless. 

2. Listening to a Life coach podcast. Eye opening for me and my ideas surrounding relationships. 

3. Following the Nutri-90 program (lost 3 kilos in one week).

Biggest lessons and learnings?

Being able to define confidence. 

What are you grateful for?

The LYP...it has opned up a new life never thought possible. Dreams I could not have imagined are now tangible thigns I can visualize and see in my future!

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PLANNING (Implementation Intention):  You will follow through 2X to 3X more likely to complete your weekly task than you normally would just by filling in the following statement.

I plan to complete the weekly task [day] at [time] in [location]. 

A reminder you might have to use multiple Implementation Intentions in order to follow through.

EXECUTION (strategies used):  From week to week, I use a combination of many strategies. There are always some which are used more than others depending on what comes up, but I wanted to offer a link to all them at once. 

My advice is to identify the I CAN'T statement you tell yourself during the most. Then find a strategy below the statement which resonates with you, and then start using it. 

Enjoy!

STRATEGY LIST