WEEK 151: WHO YOU BECOME

What you get by achieving your goals is nothing compared to who you become in achieving your goals.   Zig Ziglar

REFLECTIONS (learnings and actions): Have you felt frustrated, stressed, or even down right angry when you are not able to achieve a goal?

Even though you consciously made hard choices.

Yet, for all the actions you took, you had no results to show for them?

Well, the thing is you were doing thigns in the wrong sequence. 

Trust me, I was doing the same for many years before I learned and figured out this sequence myself.

And you want to know the incredible thing?

After I learned this sequence, what use to be a struggle...what used to be difficult...what used to keep me STUCK...

Just naturally fell into place. 

It was like I was trying to construct a building, but instead of starting with a the foundation I was trying to start with the 10th floor. 

Naturally, impossible!

Now here is the thing.

There are so many people who have amazing things to share with the world, but are fighting an uphill battle continuously (or not even fighting at all).

The truth is it does not have to be this way. 

Taking action, seeing little progress, then an obstacle which derails everything...then back to square one. 

So what is this sequence you need to understand in order to achieve your greatest goals?

It is simple...BECOME first, then have second. 

Focusing on having first, and becoming second will keep you:

-Stuck

-Frustrated

-Stressed

-Hopeless

-Blaming yourself for failures 

blah, blah, blah

This sequence is simple, but like one my mentors has said "it is the simple things we overlook first."

But let's go a little deeper and see what "BECOME first" truly means. 

Well, first it starts with clarity (funny how it always starts here).

What do you want? 

No really, do you have a clear idea what that is?

You have to be crystal clear on what you want. 

This will allow you to understand one, what person you will need to become to achieve this, and two, what actions correlate to this type of person.

And you know what, the two points above have everything to do with the PROCESS, not the results. 

Principles, rules, daily actions, lead indicators, whatever you call it. 

It is an obsession with the PROCESS. 

What actions produced the result?

Then learning from the information and taking different action if it was not the result you wanted.

Going to give it to you straight and tell you this is where you have to put the work in.

For example, you can not say I want the perfect body and go to the gym once or twice then expect to have it. 

You have to do the daily work, no matter what, in order get the results that you want. 

This is what it means to "Become first."

Whereas, trying to "Have first" focuses on the results. 

Expecting results without work is an epidemic today. 

You want without actually putting in the work. 

But why?

Want to learn what 100 of your friend did today? 

Swipe your thumb up Facebook, Instagram, or any other social media app.

Want to know who won that game?

Google it.

Want to know what is trending in the world?

Search on Twitter. 

Want to order your favorite coffee at 9:04 am to your office?

Order it on an app.

Life today is built on instant gratifiaction. 

Yet, this need makes you want to "Have first!"

Which, in terms of your greatest goals is like trying to build a house starting at the 10th floor...impossible!

Want to stop struggling...

Want to stop feeling burnout...

Want to stop feeling frustrated, stressed, angered....

Want to achieve your greatest goals? 

Remember this simple sequence BECOME first, Have second.

It is easy as 1 - 2 - 3 and will work if you are a "pro" or a dreamer just starting out!

See you on the other side...J

Top three activities that move me forward?

1. Atlas Rituals...create momentum, increase confidence and power, and subscribe to an empowering reality daily.

2. Zen...Taps me into the greatest resource on the planet. Energy and Focus.

3. Practicing my psychic umbrellas...builds up my reservoir of Focus.

Biggest lessons/learnings and corrections?

Become first (Obsess over process), Have second (lag indicators take care of themselves).

What are you grateful for?

My children having the help and education to accelerate their learning at such a young age!

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PLANNING (Implementation Intention):  You will follow through 2X to 3X more likely to complete your weekly task than you normally would just by filling in the following statement.

I plan to complete the weekly task [day] at [time] in [location]. 

A reminder you might have to use multiple Implementation Intentions in order to follow through.

EXECUTION (strategies used):  From week to week, I use a combination of many strategies. There are always some which are used more than others depending on what comes up, but I wanted to offer a link to all them at once. 

My advice is to identify the I CAN'T statement you tell yourself during the most. Then find a strategy below the statement which resonates with you, and then start using it. 

Enjoy!

STRATEGY LIST