The only thing standing between you and your goal is the story you keep telling yourself why you can't achieve it! Jordan Belford
REFLECTIONS (learnings and actions): I love this quote for this week and this is one of the biggest obstacles you will have to overcome on the path to achieving any goal, success, or your dreams.
Today I am going to bring some clarity around a huge sticking point and provide steps you need to consider the next time you are faced with a difficult decision (a given) on the path to achieving your dreams.
But before I start, I want to ask if you have had your vaccinations?
Do you remember as a child going to a clinic and getting those shots, that made your arm numb from the pain?
I do and still dislike getting shots as an adult, but I know it is worth it as I am getting the antibodies to help protect me from diseases that could be otherwise detrimental to my health.
Now this brings up an interesting point and this same lesson of enduring a pain to gain more benefits later can also be applied to your journey on the path to self realization!
How you might ask?
Well, it is something I have spoken about before, and it deals with 1st, 2nd, and 3rd order consequences.
Estimating here but 99% of this planet bases ALL of their decisions on 1st order, or immediate, consequences of their actions.
For example, investing money for the future and retirement. The 1st order consequence of putting aside money each month seems painful and you can not see the benefit from that currently.
Thus, you probably spend it on a impulse buy or something which will keep your attention for a brief time before it becomes obsolete.
Or another example, starting to exercise to get back in shape. The 1st order consequence is you feel sore and might not feel good at all after your initial session(s).
Now this is where most of the planet STOPS and QUITS, as they view the decision they made to be painful and not worth it.
What they do not see are the benefits of the 2nd and 3rd order consequences.
For investing, the 2nd order consequence is you start saving early and get compound interest on your side. Then, the 3rd order consequence is that you have MILLIONS of dollars when you retire without investing any more into the funds when you are in your 50's and 60's.
For exercising, the 2nd order is you get used to the exercise and actually start losing weight and feeling stronger. The 3rd order is you are fit way beyond your years and are able to enjoy mobility with your children and their children,
So here is the key.
DO NOT base your decisions on the path to achieving any goal, success, or your dreams solely by 1st order consequences.
They will be PAINFUL and are not fun at all.
Know this in advance, and look at the 2nd order and 3rd order consequences of your actions!
Doing this continually will help you push past the initial pain so you can reap the benefits of your actions!
Top three activities that move me forward?
1. Re-worked TMM. Exponential gains!
2. Committed to Zen. It allows me to operate at my highest levels.
3. Making objectives before the day of what needs to be done! Focuses my attention and efforts.
Biggest lessons/learnings and corrections?
Small tweaks can make huge ipacts. I have been doing my morning routine the same way for a long time thinking it was the best way, but small tweaks this past week have produced gains at a much faster rate!
What are you grateful for?
Not worried about what others are saying or thinking of me (illusion). It is powerful and I am living a more fulfilled life because of it!
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PLANNING (Implementation Intention): You will follow through 2X to 3X more likely to complete your weekly task than you normally would just by filling in the following statement.
PLANNING (Implementation Intention): You will follow through 2X to 3X more likely to complete your weekly task than you normally would just by filling in the following statement.
I plan to complete the weekly task [day] at [time] in [location].
A reminder you might have to use multiple Implementation Intentions in order to follow through.
EXECUTION (strategies used): From week to week, I use a combination of many strategies. There are always some which are used more than others depending on what comes up, but I wanted to offer a link to all them at once.
My advice is to identify the I CAN'T statement you tell yourself during the most. Then find a strategy below the statement which resonates with you, and then start using it.
Enjoy!
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