Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity, but in doing it. Greg Anderson
REFLECTIONS (learnings and actions): Happy post Thanksgiving!
December is here and it is one of the month which will dictate how 2019 will turn out.
That is right, how you end 2018 has a big impact on how 2019 will be.
But that is not what we are going to talk about today.
This week I want to talk to you about how you should make goals but not to chase the destinations, achievements.
But you might say isn't that goal of well making a goal...to achieve the result...arrive at the destination?
Nope.
Serious Jess?
Dead, and let me tell you why.
To highlight this point let me tell you about my experience of self-publishing a book.
I had no idea how to publish a book, or even felt like I was not a good writer before I started the process.
Yet, I put my nose to the ground and did the necessary work to do achieve the result.
Now you might be saying, "Jess you just said it was not about achieving the goal!"
Achieving the results felt good, but the true reward was something more powerful (will tell you in a moment).
However...I felt a bit unsatisfied once I got there. I'm not lying when I say that it was a little underwhelming.
Why?
Well, by the time I had written the manuscript, edited it 4 times (+250 pages), and working with a consultant to get the layouts and marketing lined up for the launch, and...
It just felt normal at the time that I would publish the book.
It did not seem like a "Big Deal."
It was jus something I knew would happen.
And when the day came out when I saw my book on Amazon Kindle, I felt happy but I actually felt hungry to write the "next chapter."
This taught me a very important lesson about making goals and how not to chase solely their achievement.
Come in close as this is MEGA important to understand if you are going to truly going to create something meaningful.
Don't chase destinations, as once you get there you will be unsatisfied once you get there.
Going to say this again.
Do not chase destinations or achievements.
Rather see them as signposts you are heading in the right direction.
It is like taking a long trip and seeing the results as mile markers telling you are on going the right direction.
You wouldn't stop at each mile marker would you?
No, you just see them as signposts that you are headed in the right direction.
This is powerful as if you are a high performer you know there is truly never a destination.
It always keeps shifting and changing as you keep up leveling and getting stronger.
Once you get to one level, you are prepared to reach for the next.
And now that I look back at that experience of
-self-publishing my first book
-getting to the best shape fo my life
-shifting careers successfully
...
I know the true reward was not achieving the result, but it was the person I became in the process.
Yet, I look back at the times I might have fallen short and recognize I was caught solely focusing on the results.
What was the end result of that?
-rushing and not mastering the fundamentals
-judging and comparing
-consistent stress and overwhelm
-fighting with myself of not quitting
Not fun.
So going to tell you 2 steps to follow for you to follow through so you can accelerate the process one, help you master the fundamentals, and two, allow you to normalize, up level, at a much higher speed.
1. Set goals to set a clear target.
2. View destinations and achievement as signposts not the end.
3. Obsesses over the process, not the results.
Follow this I can guarantee you will accelerate from one level to next in health, business, and life.
See you on the other side...J
Top three activities that move me forward?
1. Atlas. Confront to empower daily!
2. Zen. Gives me boundless energy and drive.
3. Breathing. Controlling my breathing, allows me to control my mental state.
Biggest lessons/learnings and corrections?
The biggest cap on your ability is how you think about yourself - identity.
In order to up level in any area of your life you need to upgrade one, how you think of yourself, and two, your environment.
What are you grateful for?
The gift of this life. I recollect the process of being adopted, growing up in the US, living abroad now and all that is happening and about to happen!
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PLANNING (Implementation Intention): You will follow through 2X to 3X more likely to complete your weekly task than you normally would just by filling in the following statement.
PLANNING (Implementation Intention): You will follow through 2X to 3X more likely to complete your weekly task than you normally would just by filling in the following statement.
I plan to complete the weekly task [day] at [time] in [location].
A reminder you might have to use multiple Implementation Intentions in order to follow through.
EXECUTION (strategies used): From week to week, I use a combination of many strategies. There are always some which are used more than others depending on what comes up, but I wanted to offer a link to all them at once.
My advice is to identify the I CAN'T statement you tell yourself during the most. Then find a strategy below the statement which resonates with you, and then start using it.
Enjoy!
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